It is New Year’s Eve and Charlie Brown says to Lucy: “Next year I am going to be a changed person.”
“That’s a laugh,” says Lucy sarcastically.
“I mean it,” says Charlie, “I’m going to be strong and firm.”
“Forget it,” says Lucy. “You’ll always be wishy-washy.”
“Well,” answers Charlie defensively, “One day I will be wishy and washy the next.”
Like Charlie Brown, most of us set New Year’s resolutions that are a little vague – lose some weight, spend more time with family and friends, quit smoking, quit drinking, enjoy life more, get out of debt, help others, get organized and on and on.
Just think, if everyone kept their New Year’s resolutions, the world would be a lot different: We’d have healthier people that would show up for work on time, smoke and drink less and be more organized.
Why don’t resolutions work? There are lots of reasons. Resolutions need to be specific, attainable and personal. They need to come from your heart. They can’t be suggested to you by someone else, because those resolutions are often more for the suggester than for the recipient!
And here’s a tip – the fewer resolutions the better. Too many changes at once, no matter how well-intentioned, become burdensome and confusing. Then it’s too easy to chuck it all and slip back into old habits.
What happens too often is that people set a goal or resolution and then they falter and just want to give up. That’s understandable. Don’t cave in and quit altogether. Just start up again. Give yourself a new incentive.
When I set a goal of a New Year’s resolution, I tell other people about it so it puts pressure on me to stick with it. I’m also a big believer in rewarding myself when I succeed or accomplish something.
This is a new year. It’s a fresh start … a new page or chapter in your life. There will never be a better time to try something new. Maybe you want to start a blog, research your family history, learn first aid or start running. How about you just forgive someone? Or decide to worry less? Whatever you decide, make sure you can actually accomplish what you set out to do. Don’t set yourself up for failure by setting unrealistic goals or putting them off indefinitely.
As author and minister Charles M. Sheldon said, “Good resolutions are like babies crying in church. They should be carried out immediately.”
Maybe this year you want to do something different. Forget the boring, routine promises you struggle to keep. Try resolving to be more creative in 2014 with some of these resolutions:
Mackay’s Moral: A New Year’s resolution should not be something that goes in one year and out the other! Happy 2014!
Seven-time, New York Times best-selling author of "Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive," with two books among the top 15 inspirational business books of all time, according to the New York Times. He is one of America’s most popular and entertaining business speakers, and currently serves as Chairman at the MackayMitchell Envelope Company, one of the nation’s major envelope manufacturers, producing 25 million envelopes a day.
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