San Francisco Giants star relief pitcher, Brian Wilson, had one of the more visible meltdowns when he was pulled from a game in the ninth inning. He proceeded to storm into the dugout where he picked up the water cooler and heaved it against the bench. Then he grabbed a bat and pummeled that same water cooler, and then punched a cardboard box.
What was more alarming was what Wilson said afterwards, “Give yourself 30 seconds to completely lose it, then come back and be part of the team.”
Did I hear that correctly?
Does that mean that it’s okay for your teenager to come home and trash the house after a rough day at school – just for 30 seconds? Or should the employee who blows up at work be forgiven for knocking over the water cooler? That only takes 5 seconds. How about people who go crazy verbally and cuss a blue streak? A lot of very nasty and damaging words can be uttered in half a minute!
Is this out-of-control behavior acceptable?
Absolutely, definitely, positively, most certainly NOT! When you blow your stack you add to the world’s pollution. These hotheads don’t understand that every time you lose your temper you advertise yourself – and you’re not selling a positive. Nothing cooks your goose more than a boiling temper.
I spend a lot of time on the golf course and I’ve seen more than my share of temper tantrums on the links. As an avid golfer, I understand frustration – and a temper is the first thing a golfer has to control. A little white ball shouldn’t tee you off to the point of ugliness.
Since golf is half mental, those who take a grim delight in being temperamental usually are more “temper” than “mental.” I always say, if you lose your head, what is the use of the rest of your body?
Maybe this is why baseball Hall of Famer and Cubs great Ernie Banks said, “Baseball reveals character; golf exposes it.”
But back to work. Keeping your temper in check is not just essential, it’s the mark of a professional. Where two or more people work together, disagreements are an ever-present part of the landscape. There are plenty of ways to be unhappy about a situation without being unpleasant. Consider these ideas:
A Native American grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt. He said, “I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry and tempermental. The other wolf is loving and compassionate.”
The grandson asked him, “Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?”
The grandfather answered, “The one I feed.”
Mackay’s Moral: When a person’s temper gets the best of him, it brings out the worst in him.
Seven-time, New York Times best-selling author of "Swim With The Sharks Without Being Eaten Alive," with two books among the top 15 inspirational business books of all time, according to the New York Times. He is one of America’s most popular and entertaining business speakers, and currently serves as Chairman at the MackayMitchell Envelope Company, one of the nation’s major envelope manufacturers, producing 25 million envelopes a day.
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